BeFrienders

BeFriender Ministry

Henri Nouwen gives a beautiful example of who we strive to become:  The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing, and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is the friend who cares.

Saint Michael Parish of Maple Grove has had the BeFriender Ministry for 27 years.  In that time, we've had the privilege of visiting and supporting many in our community and others on the fringes of our parish.  It's been a rich experience.  The ministry was begun in Minnesota at St. Thomas University, and spread throughout the country, and has trained volunteers to serve in parishes, nursing homes, hospitals, and other settings.  Some of its teachings:

  • All are valuable in God's eyes, and He is present in all our human interactions.
  • Jesus taught that, in order to love God truly, we will care for each other.
  • One of the most effective ways of caring for each other is to recognize what is going on in their life and share in it when they want and need attention.
  • Sharing their life experiences by respectful listening goes a long way to promote peace in their being, and such peace is a huge help in their walk with the Lord.


If you know of someone else who might benefit, ask them if it's okay, and then let us know.  We will follow up.  BeFriender Leaders:  Dallas Birchmeier 989-845-6677 and Kelly Knieper 810-240-9669

BEFRIENDER THOUGHTS

We need to belong! Psychologists worry that the dependence on devices and social media is damaging to this innate need, and social skills are suffering. We need to look people in the eye and share our humanness. Much is lost if we depend on texts and emails almost exclusively.

 

Again, we need connection. BeFrienders try to engage with folks at times when they especially need it. Sometimes it might be with texts, true, but we are always open to one-on-one contact.


Theologians tell us that God created us with the deep craving to connect with Him, and each other. Some people are naturally more gregarious, and it is quite easy for them. Some are more introverted, and have to push themselves a bit to reach out.


Think of how good we feel when someone shows us they care about us.