BeFrienders

BeFriender Ministry

Henri Nouwen gives a beautiful example of who we strive to become:  The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing, and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is the friend who cares.

Saint Michael Parish of Maple Grove has had the BeFriender Ministry for 27 years.  In that time, we've had the privilege of visiting and supporting many in our community and others on the fringes of our parish.  It's been a rich experience.  The ministry was begun in Minnesota at St. Thomas University, and spread throughout the country, and has trained volunteers to serve in parishes, nursing homes, hospitals, and other settings.  Some of its teachings:

  • All are valuable in God's eyes, and He is present in all our human interactions.
  • Jesus taught that, in order to love God truly, we will care for each other.
  • One of the most effective ways of caring for each other is to recognize what is going on in their life and share in it when they want and need attention.
  • Sharing their life experiences by respectful listening goes a long way to promote peace in their being, and such peace is a huge help in their walk with the Lord.


If you know of someone else who might benefit, ask them if it's okay, and then let us know.  We will follow up.  BeFriender Leaders:  Dallas Birchmeier 989-845-6677 and Kelly Knieper 810-240-9669

BEFRIENDER TEACHINGS


One of the most helpful teachings of the Ministry Program is the concept of “Aging Into the Light.”


We all know that we face death. One of the more interesting things about this life is how we try to avoid that fact-just don’t think about it. Or maybe try ridiculous attempts to deny the reaper his due-desperately seeking “stay young” measures to attempt to freeze the calendar. That approach can be called “Aging into the Darkness.” It can be characterized by anger, hopelessness, and regrets. One might have a gnawing feeling of dissatisfaction.


We can also “Age into the Light”-a positive approach. It assumes meaning in life, and trust in the future. We minimize life’s difficulties and losses, and have confidence that we can draw closer to the Creator through it all. We emulate St. Paul, who had unbelievable suffering and still found joy. We concentrate on forming loving relationships with God and humans, forgiving, working to attain virtues.


The gradual loss of our physical and mental abilities can help us move from the attractions of this world to be ready to melt our souls into eternity.

 


BEFRIENDER INSIGHTS


Often we say things like, "At the end of the day, it's what's left after the bills are paid."  Or, "At the end of the day, it's who wins the game."


Now let's consider what we have in our mental basket "at the end of the day."


As our head settles in the pillow, can we ponder the day's events?  What stands out?  Were there joyful moments?  Any sad moments?  How did I respond when someone interrupted my plans?


Sometimes we are surprised how well we respond or handle situations.  Other times, we see our impatience and even our spitefulness.


Can we allow the Holy Spirit  to help us to see things in their true light and grow from them?  It's a good bedtime prayer.